Changing the way you look at things eases caregiver stress

Thanks to each of you for reflecting and offering comments on the sensitive issue of Alzheimer's and divorce. I think Allan captured the essence of what most of you expressed. "This is such a highly personal matter ... one size cannot possibly fit all ... be careful not to judge too harshly whatever decisions a caregiver spouse makes," he said.

Whether you see things the way John does or not, his words were eloquent: "That I might take a companion, even as a lover maybe, in no way lessens or impugns the devotion and commitment I feel to her (my wife with Alzheimer's) ... Indeed, it represents a cherished endorsement of our treasured years together that I should think so highly of our companionable relationship that I might want another."